What Does It Mean When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone?

经过2017年11月18日

What does it mean when you can’t stop thinking about someone? Are they your true love? A friend? Or just someone you really should get over?

The truth is there are a million reason why we might think of someone, but let’s have a look at some of the more common reasons.

如果你不能停止思考某人

落入吸引力

我们被某人所吸引的各种不同的原因。当有人明智的曾经告诉我时,有五层吸引力:物理,智力,情感,精神和性。如果你喜欢某人的身心,你可能会感到非常吸引他们,你不能停止思考他们,但了解他们,你可能会非常意识到他们永远不会在情感上满足你。

There are also ways of making people attracted, both women and men tend to fall for people whom they have to work for a little bit (as it proves the person won’t just go for anyone and people are drawn to a challenge), people who have other people interested in them and people who are overall confident and happy.

Unfortunately we also tend to fall for people who prove our not so pleasant thoughts about life and love to be true; a reflection of our wounds if you so like.

In other words, you really need to check why you think you’re attracted to someone. Even if it’s a mutual match on all levels, you also have to build a sustainable relationship.

无论如何,无论您感受到的吸引力如何,特别是如果您觉得您必须努力才能达到某人,那么您就会考虑他们。

Trying to Figure Something Out

这有时陷入上述类别,但我们倾向于考虑我们无法弄清楚的人。他们对我们看起来有点神秘,无论我们被吸引力蒙蔽,还是根本不能把它们搞定。

At other times, we’re simply trying to figure out how to make someone like us…that can lead to a lot of thoughts too. Like what dress to wear, what to say, what to do…but really, be yourself, learn people skills, focus on creating a great life for you and chances are the right person will like you!

受伤的灵魂

曾经遇到过一般迷人的人,但谁有黑暗的一面或一个问题?你想解决这个问题,不是吗?治愈他们的伤口。让他们感觉更好。你甚至可能有任何借口只是关于他们所采取的任何消极行为,因为你怜悯他们,你想成为他们的救主。

小心,你在关系/友谊中的唯一工作就是爱一个人。有专业人士可以处理治疗人民的思想。除非你真的真的真的是一个真正的支持柱,否则这就是你的生命,否则这就是你想要的,否则这就是一个不健康的关系。

受伤的自我

Ever had someone do something that slightly hurt your feelings, or made you feel like you needed to prove yourself to them? Like that irritating person who always came first place and you second? Or that guy who hurt your feelings by rejecting you and now you want to prove that you’re so great at dating other guys that he will get the hint that he doesn’t matter?

这是一个陷阱!一个自我陷阱。你生命中的重要事项是你有乐趣,你在精神上挑战自己,身体上挑战自己,你做了更好的事情,你做了你所爱的东西。拧紧其他人正在思考并拧紧自我的思考,需要把自己放在感知的上级位置。当你的自我说你必须证明自己,你必须看起来比别人更好,或者无论你想要做什么,都要告诉它闭嘴,去做一些真正重要的事情。如果您开始聆听您的心而不是您的自我,您将会更快乐。

Anger

It happens we think a lot about someone, not only because they hurt us, but because we’re angry about it and we never told them. If you want to tell them, do so. Speak from the heart, make them see the pain (an angry outburst will only lead to them attacking you in return, or defending themselves). If you don’t want to talk about it, let it go. Realize they did wrong, your part in it (if any) and move on. Stand up for yourself as you move forward, even if you can’t do much about the current/past situation, but don’t hold onto grudges. As the saying goes: when you forgive someone you let a prisoner free: you.

如果你想证明它在生气和让它过去一旦过去,它会为自己站起来做什么的证据,请阅读Curing Back Pain: The Mind Body Connectionby Dr. John Sarno. It’s an incredible insight into what suppressed emotions can do to us.

为什么我不能停止思考这个人

分心

Do you have a lot going on in your life right now? If so, maybe thinking about that one kiss with that one guy, is a lot easier than thinking about whatever is going on? Sometimes thinking a lot about someone is simply a decoy; we’re thinking about them because we don’t want to think about ourselves, or some aspect of our lives.

连接

如关于陷入困境的第一个点,我们与各种不同的人有不同的联系。当我们遇到某人时,我们与,心理,情感或其他方式,我们倾向于考虑它们,因为我们很好奇。有时这些连接变得非常有用,虽然我们被造成了与自己类似的伤口的人,或者看到生活功能不障的人的人。在其他时候,我们很生气,因为有人对自己有类似的缺陷,我们认为他们不会很好地隐藏它,或者不要像我们那样痛苦地忍受痛苦。

The best connections, of course, are the people whom we can share wonderful experiences with us because they understand us in a way that’s helpful to us.

What to Remember When Thinking of Someone

If you are thinking about someone a lot, stop and ask yourself why. Get curious. Be open to finding out what’s really going on. Then work on finding balance. We all lose our senses a little bit when we fall in love, or get really angry, enjoy the love and sort out the anger, but do other things to. Things like hardcore exercise, time with friends, time in nature, focusing on work, watching great movies, eating good food, etc. all have a way of balancing the chemicals in our brain. Enjoying a connection with a friend, or partner, is great, but you don’t want to overly focus on someone else. You want to enjoy all aspects of your life.

175评论

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    Kair

    May 28, 2020 at 6:52 pm

    Why i missing my crush even since 3 year??? I tried everything but she suddenly pop ups in my head during the day time!!! I am[email protected]用这种感觉。她喜欢我,在行使时总是在我身边,并希望我能注意到她..我拒绝了她,但在那天之后,她从来没有来过,我因为工作而改变了我的家,但她仍然进入我的想法。我永远不会问她为什么它发生了???

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    卡西迪卡希尔

    4月13日,2020年2:59 AM

    okay so a long time ago, me and this boy have been on and off. we were never actually dating, just had feelings and all. he asked me out and he told me loved me. I wanted to be with him but I didn’t at the same time. It had been 3+ years and I still didn’t know. he finally moved on. well I have this lifelong best friend and he just asked me out a few weeks ago. I’m having the same issue with him that I had with the other person. It’s like I don’t know what I want at all and I’ve been thinking for days and days about it. I am not really sure what it means or what to do.

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      2020年4月13日下午3:52点

      Take this time to determine what you want for the future. It is clear that the two of you care about each other. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. You should act soon, otherwise he may feel uncertain about your feelings toward him.

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    Snesh

    December 15, 2019 at 12:10 pm

    我在一个关系3 and a half years but seem to be attracted to this guy that stays in my area, we click at whatever topic we talk about and he makes me laugh. I cant stop thinking of him & all look forward to seeing him.

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      January 5, 2020 at 10:41 am

      You are in a relationship, so allow thoughts of this other person to fade. Nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time together in person.

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    salsa

    亚博体育app怎么下载2019年12月7日在上午凌晨5:00

    Few days back, I do have a physical connection suddenly with my colleague after that I’m continuously thinking about that and we didn’t even discussed about what really happened. I want to know that only I’m thinking about him or he is also thinking about me. Please help me in this.

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      1月13日,2020年下午7:56

      除非你跟他说话或者真的擅长阅读肢体语言,否则没有办法知道他是如何思考的。如果你喜欢他,你认为他可能会回来,尝试一下,告诉他你的感受,看看会发生什么。祝你好运!

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