What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He’s Confused and He Needs Time to Think?

经过on August 14, 2018

One of the worst things that can happen to a woman is this: you’re in a seemingly great relationship with some dreamy guy you can’t get enough of. You went on a hot date last night and it was a hit! However, you woke up today only to hear the dreaded words: “I’m confused and just need some time to think about things”. Uhhh, what? It’s a joke right? Unfortunately not, and it is gut-wrenching. But before you flip out and wonder what’s wrong with you, let’s take a look at what this may actually mean.

Boyfriend Says He Needs Time to Think

Reasons He May Say the Dreaded Words We Never Want to Hear

He is Genuinely Scared

让我们面对它:关系可以,嗯,相当可怕。当你觉得自己爱上某人时,他们不断地吸收你的时间和思想,你就会感到不堪重负。在某些情况下,当他深深爱上你时,一个人可能会开始感受到这种方式。他需要花些时间考虑爱情是什么,如果他真的准备好潜入并与女人全心全间,让他的情绪超越他。

He Needs to Reclaim His Masculinity

When a man falls in love with a woman, he lets his guard down. All of the sudden he is a romantic lovey-dovey sap, and when a man realizes this he can become somewhat bothered, feeling like his masculinity is being taken from him. Yes, it is kind of silly, but men are all about being macho and strong and impressing females. If he feels like he is becoming to emotionally powered and feeling weak giving into his loving emotions, he may want to take a step back to simply redeem his testosterone levels.

He’s Not Interested

This is the one we all dread hearing, but unfortunately sometimes being ‘confused’ and ‘needing time to think’ are code words for ‘I am not interested and I may even be interested in another woman already’. If this is the case, it’s important to remember there is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes relationships simply do not work out and the spark dies off; or in some cases, was never there in the first place.

原因为什么你的男人想要空间和该怎么做

你需要如何做出反应

Don’t Panic

How you react to a man saying he’s confused and needs time to think is imperative. Show him you’re not crazy and not all about him. Show him you can be independent and strong and DO NOT PANIC! Yes it’s terrible to hear, but panicking and over-thinking is NOT going to help you in the slightest. Remain calm and stay cool- it is way more attractive than being the ‘crazy’ girl he never wants to see again.

留下他一个人

You certainly do not want to portray yourself as being desperate. Show him that you’re a strong woman that can live without him and he may become more attracted to you and realize you’re the woman of his dreams. On the other hand, leaving him alone will give you time to relax and GET OVER HIM! If he isn’t so sure about you, then don’t waste your time trying to win him back. There is a man out there who knows for sure that he loves you and it won’t confuse him to feel loving emotions.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He's Confused and He Needs Time to Think

Pull Back and Let Him Come to You

保持你的距离他实际上allowing him time to think can be the best thing for your relationship. Sometimes people truly just need some time to sit back, relax, and assess the situation. Pulling away from him and showing him you can give him his space without freaking out is a great way to handle the situation. When he decides he wants to be with you, let him come to you- and let him work for it. Show him you weren’t just waiting around for his answer. Have him come to you, never go to him begging for him to make up his mind and be with you.

Have you ever heard a man tell you that he is confused and needs time to think? How did you handle the situation and how did the relationship ultimately work out? We would love to hear some stories! BUT ALWAYS REMEMBER: DON’T PANIC! Sometimes people just need a breather!

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    Bonnie

    March 21, 2020 at 7:40 pm

    我的心灵已经运行疯狂的和我的情况a mess. I don’t even know how to define what I’ve had with the man that I love. We’ve never been official. It’s been 5 years we have been very off and on. When we met he was going through a divorce and I knew he would want to be free. So I honored that and didn’t pursue him, but I was there when he was heartbroken and missing his children. We both dated others and would always come back to one another. He always pursued me, but never enough for a relationship. I always just thought he was scared of the bigger picture. This past year though I lost my Dad and my children lost their father all within 4 months of each other. I reached out to the man that I love, he stayed with me. We went on dates, walked and talked and the passion was incredible. He was at my house 4-5 nights a week. I never asked him to be there, he always asked to come over. I happened to do lunch with a mutual friend who told me that my love had a gf. My heart was broken, we had just told each other how much we love one another. I didn’t understand how he had time for a gf with him being with me all the time. I selfishly didn’t bring it up and ignored it for awhile even though it was eating away at me. Long story short, I’ve been in a twisted love triangle for the past year. I’ve loved him, hated him, forgives him and loved him all over again. I distanced myself for a few months until he started showing up on my doorstep unannounced a few weeks ago and then a week ago. This past time his gf found out and broke up with him and this time she packed his stuff and put it out for him. Did I mention she lives 45min away I live less than 5min away? Anyways, we went on a walk Thursday and he asked me to give him until Monday to make a decision on if he wants to give us a chance or not. He says that he loves both of us. She says she’s finished, but for some reason just like myself she lets him back in. He’s left her at our local hangout to be with me several times. When I tell you that I’ve never fought so hard for someone, I’ve never loved someone as much as I do him. I’ve never felt so linked to someone and it’s more than a sexual connection. He opens up a side of me that no one ever had and I was married for 7years. He tells me I’m wife material, outlines my face with his finger, tells me he wants to be with me, but never has the balls to do it. I feel like he’s comfortable with her even if she is “mediocre” bc she lives an hr away and can’t be directly involved in his life. He’s told me several times that he’s trying to push her away and that break up was coming. He’s made it very clear that she’ll never move here bc of her kids and he’ll never move there bc of his kids. So WTH am I missing? I’m here, my kids are here, both of our lives are here. I haven’t texted him and I am patiently trying to wait until Monday even though I have very little hope that he’ll choose me. He hasn’t chosen me in 5 years so why would this time be any different? I told him if he was going to try to get back with her to just tell me now and we can go our separate ways. He freaked out and begged me to wait until Monday. Part of me just wants to tell him I’m finished I can’t do it anymore and just stop the pain of waiting. I told him that I didn’t even want to tie him down to a relationship, obviously that would be something to lead up to. That all I wanted was a fresh start to put the past in the past and date. Just enjoy each other. Any advice is helpful. I know it’s a confusing mess.

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      March 25, 2020 at 3:12 pm

      It is clear that this relationship is not following the path that you would like it to be. You are aware that he is not being loyal to you or the other people that he is dating. You should acknowledge the fact that this relationship is not viable. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If you feel that it is necessary to inform him of your decision, then do so.

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    gr

    March 10, 2020 at 5:55 am

    I met this guy and have been seeing each other for couple of weeks. Earlier I was not very much into him but still he kept talking and staying in touch so I decided to give it a try and we started dating.He used to be very sweet and very attentive as to what I tell him about my day, etc. He was very talkative and could talk continuously for hrs.So suddenly one of his parent got sick and passed away in few days. He was in touch with me all through out this even when I had not expected him to. Then we had a lil fight over something related to future plans. Around same time he insisted that I come visit his family, although I was not comfortable he convinced me and I went. Everything was fine. But suddenly I started noticing that his behavior has changed, he reduced taking to me. But I didn’t pay much attention thinking he may be sad bcz of his loss. But then after few days when I asked him he said that he feels that he wanted to discuss things with his family and hence he is not talking. He was going to tell me after discussing with family(maybe about the fight we had earlier). I thought I shouldn’t force him to talk or fight with him considering the tough time he going thru. So I just told him to take time and tell me whenever his decision is done. He never replied me back. It’s been a month. (Now when I think about all this I don’t feel he is good human being considering he couldn’t even tell me he can’t take things forward out of courtsey after staying in touch day n night when he wanted to.) I am not sure why I am so sad bcz of this, is it bcz I had considered him the one and now again m to ground zero or was he good guy and I misunderstood him or something. In ny case, he never told what went wrong so I don’t know. But it really makes me sad that he just decided to stop talking about saying anything. I don’t know what to do. I think I shouldn’t be contacting him again given that I had asked him to think n inform me. And by now it’s very obvious that he is not coming back. But still I have this hope in my mind which is killing me. What should I do to deal with this anxiety and helplessness? What do you think about this guy will he ever get back?

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      网络管理员

      March 12, 2020 at 1:18 pm

      他一个月后他没有伸出过,所以他似乎不太可能在不久的将来进入。从你的经历来看,似乎他决定他不想要这种关系,只是勇敢地告诉你这个事实。你可能永远不知道为什么他决定这不是他的关系,你现在所能做到的就是继续前进。尽量保持忙碌,让你的思绪远离一切,而你的心脏会在接下来的几周或几个月内愈合。

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    mary

    February 22, 2020 at 10:14 am

    I met my boyfriend online 2 years algo. We have been dating long distance. I’ve traveled to see him and we were supposed to be dating for marriage. We put our marriage plans on pause because his parents are very ill and he is their primary caregiver (his brothers just don’t want to be involved).
    我完全明白了这一点,但经过2年后,我告诉他我需要知道我们是否还在这样做以结婚。我们都超过40岁,每日2年的接触就足以了解。我知道我的要求因为他母亲的疾病而对他施加压力,但我觉得这是正确的事情。我以为是否会结婚,我们应该开始做出改变,我退出我的工作并搬到靠近他并帮助他,因为我会曾经结婚。但他说他没有关于嫁给我的笑声。他带回了3次战斗我们在2年里,我们在一起,他在一起,他所说的是桥上的水。但在我们的电话结束时,他说他正在怀疑他的决定,因为他知道他正在放弃一些大的事情。第二天,我告诉他,我需要说出我不想被遗弃的事情。他说他明白,但他需要时间思考和反思。我同意了他的要求。
    It’s been two weeks. I miss him dearly. I can’t believe he forgot every plan we had for our future. I feel like he fooled me, but I still love him. I’m drowning in uncertainty. I know I should be strong, but at the moment it is very hard to keep going when I feel there’s just blank space at the end of my path.
    what should I do?

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      February 25, 2020 at 4:37 pm

      你们两个人在两周内没有说过。这表明这种关系得出结论。没有他,决定你想要你的未来。允许这些经验指导未来的行为。确保您随时分享您的善意和同情心,因为这将向您吸引积极的人和能量。

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        mary

        March 1, 2020 at 11:08 am

        I suppose I’m still in denial. Since he was the one who asked for time, I haven’t contacted him respecting his request. I naively thought he would in time say “hey I’m done thinking”, we would talk and give closure to the situation like adults, but I guess I will have to move on and close this chapter with unanswered questions on my own. I am scared and overwhelmed by uncertainty.
        我没有人转向。谢谢你的善意和你的时间,他们非常感谢这些绝望的时刻。

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          网络管理员

          March 3, 2020 at 3:33 pm

          Moving on is incredibly hard, so it is understandable that you would struggle right now. All you can do is try focusing on yourself and stay busy. Each day, moving on will get a little easier, but it could be a couple of months until you feel normal again. Good luck!

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            mary

            March 18, 2020 at 8:37 pm

            It has been hard. it’s going to take more than 2 months. And now with this covid19 situation, I am worried about him (he’s asthmatic) and his parents who are seriously ill (heart complications and COPD). There are posit8ve covid19 cases in his county and the number is increasing. Should I break no contact and let him know I’m 7praying for him?

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    Renee

    February 15, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    我一直和一个人在10个月了。我们一直在无花果hting a lot and he says I dont understand he needs his time to think and figure out if he can be the man I need. Were havent been intimate for a while and it’s been a dead relationship but I want to get past the drama. Theres been a lot of damage but it was good the first few months. I want to get past the damage and start over but I’m not sure if he can get past it. I’m afraid of what will happen because we still love eachother. Weve just been fighting so much because I’ve done so much for him and hove him a hard time because hes got a lot going on with his life and hes stressed but because of that he cant do thoughtful things for me, ever? I just feel neglected but really want to start over and reignite the flame. Is there anything I can do? I dobt want to lose him but idk what to do.

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      网络管理员

      February 16, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      即使他受到压力,他仍然可以很好地思考和对待你 - 尽管你也会公平,你会让他摆脱困境,直到他的生活更容易处理。然而,打破一个循环可能非常困难。如果你们两个人陷入了一种彼此的模式,可能很难改善关系 - 特别是如果他没有致命改变事情。你可以做的最好的事情就是坐下来,诚实地谈论你的感受。希望他决定他想尽可能多地致力于这种关系。祝你好运!

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    CANDICE Emily ROKOSE

    February 15, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    我一直和一个人在10个月了。我们一直在无花果hting a lot and he says I dont understand he needs his time to think and figure out if he can be the man I need. Were havent been intimate for a while and it’s been a dead relationship but I want to get past the drama. Theres been a lot of damage but it was good the first few months. I want to get past the damage and start over but I’m not sure if he can get past it. I’m afraid of what will happen because we still love eachother. Weve just been fighting so much because I’ve done so much for him and hove him a hard time because hes got a lot going on with his life and hes stressed but because of that he cant do thoughtful things for me, ever? I just feel neglected but really want to start over and reignite the flame. Is there anything I can do? I dobt want to lose him but idk what to do.

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      Renee

      2月15日,2020年下午7:04

      Delete

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        网络管理员

        February 16, 2020 at 7:49 pm

        No worries–people comment twice on accident all the time. Let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks!

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      February 16, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      即使他受到压力,他仍然可以很好地思考和对待你 - 尽管你也会公平,你会让他摆脱困境,直到他的生活更容易处理。然而,打破一个循环可能非常困难。如果你们两个人陷入了一种彼此的模式,可能很难改善关系 - 特别是如果他没有致命改变事情。你可以做的最好的事情就是坐下来,诚实地谈论你的感受。希望他决定他想尽可能多地致力于这种关系。祝你好运!

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    Alissa

    2020年2月10日在下午6:44

    He told me he needs time to think. I told him his number is deleted. Bye.

    It is 2020. Expect nothing but respect.

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      网络管理员

      February 10, 2020 at 7:09 pm

      这听起来很公平。如果你知道你想要什么,他无法决定,它基本上意味着你必须自己选择。祝你好运!

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    Nathalie

    January 23, 2020 at 9:22 am

    Hello, I’ve been knowing my boyfriend for 6 years met him after 6months of loosing his fiancé she passed away 3 days before the wedding. (His 33 and I’m 30)
    So we always had that bumpy road together but for the past 7 months we officially start dating he called his girlfriend and I met his family for the first time (even his mom said he hasn’t brought a girl home since his fiancé) but one night I got super mad about him constantly mentioning her and I told him I want someone that can love me 100 and by him talking about her seems like he is not healed yet so he got mad at me and pulled away start being distant and barley talking. It’s been like 3 weeks and I saw him yesterday all he was saying “I love you” a lot I need some time I wanna marry you but it’s a major step and after I’ve planned it before and I lost it I don’t wanna lose it again he keep asking me for time.
    但我不知道该怎么做,因为他没有发短信或呼唤,因为它在杀死了这种关系之前,这是我的感受,但我不知道我是否应该让他独自一人,和他分手。我迷路了我知道我也非常爱他,但他的行为现在正在推动我,因为我厌倦了他在一切完美的时候表现得很困惑和需要时间。

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      网络管理员

      January 23, 2020 at 4:00 pm

      他已故的未婚夫是他第一次主要的爱和他预计将与他的生命共同度过的人。当你结婚(或预计将与某人结婚)时,可能需要数年或数十年来愈合。如果你在配偶之后与老年人交谈并爱他们的生命通过,你会发现他们不仅仅克服它。他很沮丧,因为你正在推动他忘记他想结婚的女人。这完全可以理解,你不想和她的记忆不断存在,但他不太可能完全摆脱她的记忆。此外,他也可能担心你会死的,如果你从事他,即使他可能知道这种恐惧是荒谬的,不太可能。现在,你只需要决定你是否可以忍受未婚夫的记忆永远存在的事实,并且由于他之前尝试结婚的尝试多么令人瘫痪,他可能需要一段时间来结婚。

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    Jenny

    1月13日,2020年上午7:04

    我向他约会了3个月,从一开始就知道我有一个儿子。我们一起度过的时候是惊人的,并认为是他的优先事项。但是,当他正要知道我的儿子时,突然改变了。他借口不符合他,并开始与我达到距离。我们应该在上周日见面,他星期五和星期六关闭了电话。星期天早上,他读了我的信息并忽略了他们,所以我告诉他,我对情况并不舒服,他可能需要一些时间来下定决心,他回答他不是为了我的时间,或者戴上时间对我来说努力,所以暂停关系会更好,他可以专注于自己的问题。我说这很好,从那时起我们就不会谈论一周。我真的想回来,但不确定该怎么办。我应该发短信给他,让我的东西回来还是给他更多的时间来思考或可能只是继续前进。

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      1月13日,2020年下午6:27

      I would text him to see if you can get your things back. If he has any lasting things to share or wants to get back together, that will be a natural opportunity for him to say so–plus, this gives you an excuse to reach out to him without seeming like you are bothering him to get back together. And if he really does want to end things, it’ll give you a chance to find out for sure and to get your things back.

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    Specialklostinlove

    January 4, 2020 at 10:57 am

    I have been dating a guy for 4 months now and everything was going so great but I was always extremely wary because he just got out of a long term relationship when we met so his life was uncertain. Moving in with parents, job change, working with his ex etc. He dumped me on NYE after telling his friends about me. He says lovely things about me and cares for me deeply etc but has ended it saying he doesn’t know what he wants. He is confused and lost and just wants to hide. Something doesn’t feel right and he doesn’t know what it is. He wants to be friends and meet up in a couple of weeks to see how we both feel. Do I look at this as a freak out or do I accept and move on? I honestly have no idea what to do as things were so good until all of this came out.

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      1月4日,2020年下午3:49

      我希望他只想留下朋友。如果他现在不知道他想要什么,他现在不会在几周内弄清楚。

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      Che2

      January 12, 2020 at 4:39 pm

      这也是我现在的情况。他真的在哭泣,因为他让他带着他的空间后想念我。但他说他想找到自己。他不确定我们的关系。但他不想失去我。(我真的很困惑这个)他正在努力和压力也许有关系。他哭了,因为他不想伤害我。管理员,你能告诉我该怎么办吗?顺便说一下,我们处于远程距离。

      • 网络管理员

        网络管理员

        January 12, 2020 at 10:44 pm

        He can’t have it both ways. The only way to not lose you is to date you. If he tries to end things, then he can’t just keep you around forever. It sounds like what he really wants is to end things, but he isn’t quite strong enough to do so. He also seems to be struggling with the fact that he still has so many feelings for you, even if he does want to move on in life still.

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    Lee

    January 2, 2020 at 9:14 pm

    我和我的男朋友(现在也许是ex?)已经在一起近4年了。我们处于半长距离关系,但在大多数情况下,每周至少会看到对方。过去一个月或两两个月,我们一直很容易遭受对方的皮肤,并且对小,微不足道的事情感到恼火。在过去的一周我们进入了我们整个关系中的最大论据。我试图用两个独立的场合与他交谈,他一直在说他需要时间和空间。我曾问他是否与我分手,他所说的只是“这不是我所说的”,但他也没有说不出他需要“重新评估我们的关系,看看我们可以从那里看到我们可以去的地方。”我不得不在社交媒体上删除他,因为我给他适当的空间的唯一方法就是看不到他的任何东西(如果想到的话)。我真的觉得这是他让我轻松让我失望的方式,我完全令人心碎,而且对此感到沮丧以及争论本身。我在这里怎么办?我们是单身,直到我们又谈谈? Should I start prepping myself for going through a breakup? I dont want to give myself false hope. Please help!

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      网络管理员

      January 3, 2020 at 4:03 pm

      You have deleted him, and it is clear that your relationship is no longer viable. Determine what you want without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Chery

    December 24, 2019 at 12:39 pm

    我和我的伙伴几天前他说分手了he still loves me we broke up because he was emotionless and we hardly spoke which made me sad or maybe it was my untreated depression or a mix of both but he said seeing me so sad and knowing he was the reason I was sad made him unhappy and he said we both unhappy in this relationship we need to end the suffering after the breakup I made several suggestions how we could make things work better but now he’s saying he needs time to think he texts me daily but sometimes doesn’t reply to my messages for hours and he said I message him too much I’m pushing him to a decision he’s all I can think about and I want to talk to him all the time but he has better things to do like playing call of duty rather than discuss how to move forward on saving this relationship but now he says he still loves me but he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me and needs time to think its been 4 days and I’m losing my mind not being able to speak to him and cuddle him at night

    • 网络管理员

      网络管理员

      1月5日,2020年9月51日

      It sounds like your ex wanted to move on, but had buyer’s remorse about ending things right away. Because of this, there is a good chance that he’ll decide to move on anyway. The only way to have a chance that he will stay is to give him some space because, if you push him too hard, he will leave for good.

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    Jenny

    December 4, 2019 at 5:39 pm

    我知道我的男朋友是8个月,在夏天cause we are living in different countries we took a break but we still communicate. We came back to university and we start dating again but we keep our space. like not meeting each other every day but 2-3 times per week. The last two weeks I noticed that he was a bit cold with me and when we met he told me that he felt that these weeks were weird and he felt that he didn\t want to text me or talk to me. He told me that he needs time to understand if he stills has feeling for me and if he is going to miss me, so we agree on that we going to take a break in order for him to makeup his mind. On the same day he came in my place and he was sweet as always and we had great time. The next day I noticed that he was again a bit cold in our text messages and I asked him if he loves me and he replied no but I still liked you a lot and I need my space right now to understand what’s going on with my feelings and this relationship. I mentioned the fact of breaking up but he insists that he doesn’t know if he wants break up he just need time. We will be apart for a month and anw I don’t see him a lot so I understand the taking his time part. Like he doesn’t love me, he doesn’t really text me anymore, he doesn’t want to see me, but when we met he was so sweet and nice but apparently he does not want to break up, but he needs time! I honestly do not understand because I told me if he wants to break up. I believe this is the end of our relationship but I am so sad.

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      网络管理员

      January 17, 2020 at 3:09 pm

      有时候,人们想要分手,但他们并没有情绪强大,足以马上脱离。听起来他绝对想离开,他只是等着有足够的力量来完全脱离。只要它听起来就像这样的话,就可以更好地结束这种关系,这就是他最终想要做的事情。

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    Misswantsexclusive

    2019年11月2日上午7:35

    我一直在约会和睡在这个人身上超过一个月。我也和其他人交谈,我巧妙地暗示了我。他说他对我看不见别人并向他保证他是我唯一睡觉的人。如果他感到舒服地知道我停止和其他人说话,我会询问他是否会让他感觉更好。So I offered an exclusive relationship to him, and that’s when he started saying that he’s not ready for any relationship even though I also specified that the only thing that would change in our dynamic is that we are both sure that it’s just the two of us and nothing serious yet. It’s been almost two weeks and he says that he’s still thinking about it. I’m confused cause I thought that’s what he wanted, and I also wanted that.

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      网络管理员

      February 27, 2020 at 8:01 pm

      显然,他希望你不要约会其他人,也不是关系。他还没有准备好犯罪 - 他只是喜欢你足够嫉妒你和其他人在一起。你需要再次与他交谈并表达你的混乱。告诉他,如果你没有关系或承诺,那么你很好,但这意味着您可以自由地了解。他可以决定他想要哪个选择,但他不能拥有两者。

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    Maria

    October 31, 2019 at 1:01 pm

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we break up a lot and recently he told me he doesn’t know how he feels anymore that he is certain he loves me, but he is trying to find his feelings for me. I asked him if he wants to end it just to do so he keeps saying he doesn’t know, but he keeps throwing in my face that he might not get his feelings back that he is trying. I told him every time he says it im loosing interest he agreed not to say it but its been a week and we don’t spend time together and I told him to take some time and decide what he really wants. Am I wasting my time and I should just end it.

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      February 28, 2020 at 6:27 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is not interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. It seems that you should take this time to make a decision about what you want for your future. You have made your feelings clear to him, so it is up to him if he is going to alter his behaviors. Share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life.

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    Scarlett

    October 28, 2019 at 11:47 am

    This is exactly my situation. I’ve been dating a man in office. He is 52 and I am 39. It’s been 4 months and everything has been good. I asked him if we could take this seriously and become official. But he was scared and said he needed time. I am in panic and we have agreed to talk next week to decide. What should I do during the week until he’s back? He’s on trip for a week. I am scared if I should text him to say good night or not. Or should I just leave him alone?

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      网络管理员

      March 4, 2020 at 7:26 pm

      The two of you should take this time to make a firm decision. If you feel that the two of you have reached a decision already, then stick to whatever has been determined. If you deal with a similar issue in the future, then keep in mind that communication is always beneficial.

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    Anastacia

    October 20, 2019 at 2:04 pm

    I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months and we’re great. The only downside is, he’s still best friends with his ex of 12 years and they split 4 years ago. Respecting his wishes to be friends with her, I did not argue this.however, as I spend more time with him.im curious about the relationship they gave, I therefore ask questions. We’ve had brief conversations (2) in the past which didn’t answer everything. Last night, I asked my final question and I could see he was frustrated. He has now said he needs time to think because I keep asking and he said that he doesn’t like the pressure I’m putting on him, if he were to hurt (which I’m not at all). I tried to clarify that I trust him but I only wanted to learn more about the relationship with his ex so I can feel comfortable bwith the situation as our relationship grows.
    He hasn’t been in contact with me (day 1) he left this morning giving me an endearing kiss on the cheek. I won’t text or call, I’ll give him a day or two. Am I being irrational? He admitted he likes and that he chose to be with me for a reason.

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      网络管理员

      3月20日,2020年下午8:18

      似乎你应该花这次来评估你的关系。您可能在此时达成协议或结论。为您的未来关系留意这种体验,因为这将有助于您以积极的方式导航您的生活。

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    克里希纳

    2019年10月18日在晚上7:05

    My boyfriend and I have always been great. I was so sure of him and I genuinely know that he really does like me. This is my first relationship ever and we honestly haven’t even fought from these past few months. Out of nowhere he suddenly told me that everything was going so fast and he wasn’t ready to commit yet. I was so confused because I don’t know where to draw the line. Should I wait for him to think things out and stay?

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      网络管理员

      March 25, 2020 at 3:55 pm

      似乎你应该花这段时间进行内省。如果您在此次保持建立关系,请记住,与您的伴侣与您的思想和感情交谈总是有益的。为了滋养您维护的任何关系,您应该与该人一起度过额外的时间。